hi everyone, i would like to introduce myself and tell my story.
from the standpoint of being one of jehovahs witnesses, my whole family is deeply involved as i was the 5th generation of witness and any children that my brothers or sister have will be the sixth generation.
as some of my brothers and sisters are grandparents, i guess that makes their grandchildren a potential 7th generation.
WELCOME JAKE , I so appreciated your bio-post . My husband and I left six yrs ago.......I could relate to many of the things you experienced . I plan on saving your story to share with my sons ,because you put the JW experience into words better than I could ever do .Thankfully all my kids have faded too ,but I don't think they have ever looked deeply into why the JW religion is so wrong and distructive .
Thank you so much for sharing .
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Is it possible to have your Aunt's number blocked from your phone ? You do not need that kind of discouragement . The first year is the hardest ,be patient ,and keep dong what you are doing . Just maintain with your Mom that you are busy working ect...
Do not be afraid to stand up for what is best for YOU !!! You are now an adult on your own ,figure out what you really need and want personally (not what others impose upon you ) and get busy doing those things that matter to you .
All the best to you !
i am very proud that we have been together for 10 years!
being raised a jw, it was always hard for me to find a long term relationship.
most people that i met weren't interested in anything long term, and each time one ended, it left me feeling like i would never find someone who shared the same feelings.
Congratulations OhioGuy & Dave ,best wishes for many more wonderful years !
i have been on this site daily, almost from its beginning, since i left the jws in 2001, but i have been more of a reader than a poster, as you can see from my post count.
i know few here know me, although i know many of you through reading your posts.
maybe it is not right to ask for support, when i generally stay quietly in the background of this forum, but i want only to speak a human misery of the deepest kind.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your son .
I can not imagine the pain you and your family are feeling today .......I wish strength for you ,and the ability to carry on , know that you are not alone .
((((Truman))))
"my dream has come true" i have a bullshite story in the latest watchtower..
Funny CoCo I was thinking the very same thing ,What the heck is she wearing ???
i, like most born ins grew up being taught that everyone who was not a jw was inherently wicked, that they were dishonest, unloving, selfish, bad parents who don't care about their children, and also sad empty people with no direction in life.. as i grew older i started to see that this wasn't always true with every one, that what i was taught wasn't equating with what i was seeing.. by high school i could see that my friends at school, (yes worldly friends eek!
) we're actually decent people with morals, they may have engaged in a little fornication here and there but not promiscuously, and they were good honest people, with goals and parents that cared for them.. but after high school i was phsycologicaly bullied into ceasing contact with my friends altogether, leaving me with little contact with outside world, and the cult mentality had more room to grow, not fully, but enough to unconsciously not fully trust 'worldly' people.. however, once i'd left the org and began to meet people again, i was amazed at actually how good, honest, loving, kind, and caring many people can be!
who love their spouses and children and try their very best to be good parents and partners.
Same experience here ... exactly the same . Sorry to say it took me soooo very long to realize the lies I had been led to believe . Once you are out and stop filling your head with Witness nonsense you begin to 'really' see and appreciate the people around you .
this is what the world is coming to (article from the arkansas gazette):.
jack.
"new york city's new sensitivity guidelines for standardized tests ban 50 undesirable words that might 'evoke unpleasant emotions' in students, including 'dancing,' 'dinosaurs,' and 'birthdays.
I had a witness friend that was highly offend if you used the word "fart" ...I had never heard of such a thing ,and thought she was kidding until one day she pulled me aside and reprimanded me for bad language . I explained to her maybe from her town in the south this was a bad word ,but from were we live it is not ,but she still insisted I should never say that in front of her , wind or gas was more appropriate Whatever .....avoiding her seemed the better answer to me !
as some of you who read my previous thread know, my matrix moment has passed, and i am on my way out.
i am trying very hard to fade slowly in hopes that my wife will wake up, and maybe my family too.
the problem is, my conscience still works well, and i don't want to go out in if service and tell people things that i know aren't true.
I remember going through that .... my conscience would no longer allow me to lie to others either .
If you have to go out ,go to the door by yourself ,and ask any house holder, 'what do you really think of JW's coming to your door ? Would you like to know how to make them stop ? "
Create your own entertainment ....or do what most do and just fill in an hour or two on the card and turn it in ... keeps everyone happy
One time the service overseer was badgering me for my husbands time slip ( he never went out ) When I got tired of lying for him the overseer wouldn't accept it and kept saying 'just an hour didn't he maybe get at least an hour in ???" When I said 'Sure put an hour down for him " That made the overseer happy ..even when he KNEW it wasn't true .
yes, friends, it's that time once more... when we clip some wt art to a post and try to find all the subliminal wt propaganda messages hidden in the illustration.
(kinda like, "can you find the differences between these two drawings" for kids in the sunday comics).
here's the illustration:.
God only likes you to wear sensible shoes ,dockers and button down shirts for casual wear . You can always tell a weak sinner by their sneakers and t-shirts w/logos !
i am by nature a reticent soul.
i am perfectly happy to watch from the sidelines as others debate and contest, poke, prod, and cajole one another.
as an observer, i still gain.
Welcome SocratesWannabe ,great first post !
